Tuesday, May 19, 2009

Don't wanna make you depressed.


Don't wanna make no one depressed by my blog.

"I was reading a blog by a Swedish guy named Andreas Johannes. He happens to like sistas. At first I thought he was being cynical and superficial. But then I just realized that he's just a down-to-earth guy who has a genuine love and interest for black women. That's so rare here, or anywhere, that I was overwhelmed. I should've been happy. Instead I became depressed.

I suppose after seeing me and other friends be nothing but conquests for any male, the sincerity was too much to handle. It just isn't the same in America. Here we're..."

Photo: from a Facebook note

13 comments:

Unknown said...

Andreas,
This woman's comments are an important reminder of why your blog is so essential. For too many years BW (especially in America) have silently sufferred as EVERYONE attacked our HUMANITY, DIGNITY, and FEMININITY. I'm glad to see BW (and those who admire us) speak out against ANTI-BW HATE. By highlighting the beauty of ALL BW you are doing a great job of promoting POSITIVE images of BW everywhere and helping destroy ANTI-BW HATE. That is very encouraging!

Keep up the great blog!

lockrocker said...

Hey Friend,
Your blog isn't what depressed her, most likely it's her own personal history of mistreatment coming back and hurting her. Sometimes, the love and kindness of others shows us what could have been in our lives, and it hurts to see how far it was from our reality. What's important is viewing the kindness as such, and also seeing it as a promise for the future. Much love.

Nikaras said...
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Nikaras said...

You have a beautiful blog. Like lockrocker pointed out, I was just depressed because your love stands in stark contrast to the treatment I receive here. To see such kindness after so much adversity was tough.

Shirl in the City said...

Black women are not use to genuine admiration of our unique beauty. It is VERY rare. We are ridiculed more than we are admired even though many other women pay lots of money to get what we've got naturally. Some things I will just never understand.

FunkyStarkitty50 said...

Your Blog is great!!! There just are not many sites on the Internet which uplift the Black woman. Instead, it degrades and misrepresents the image of who we are. I'm thinking that the author of those Facebook comments is just commenting on how we often don't feel the appreciation from men over here--including those of us who want to be loved and cherished by Black men(I'm not one of them, my preference has always been non-Black men). It's just a pitiful state of affairs when we get positive, but much appreciated affirmation from non-American men and none from our own backyard. I've said before that I think what you are doing is wonderful and continue to promote positivity. Ignore the Internet trolls who want to cause trouble.

Sandra77 said...

Can I just say "Amen," Hear, hear," and "Ditto" to all the commenters here?!

Sandra77 said...

Andreas, I hope this letter affirms to you how special and important your blog is not only to black women and white men, but also to the world. You're doing the same thing that Harry Potter (the WWS blogger) is doing, just from a different perspective. Andreas, I know you won't do this blog forever, but while you're doing it, I want you to know that you make my heart sing.

Anonymous said...

I don't why black women so depressive about themselves why all women have their own beauties and black women have so unique feature much more than any women from other races.Society doesn't have to be right of chose and create of beauty.There are thousands of men(non bm) think black women wonderful and these are my 2cents.

Anonymous said...

Sandra77,

I agree with you this blog makes me feel wonderful. I don't care how superficial it "appears." Andreas loves our beauty in all of our shades and shapes.

Moorena Beauty

FunkyStarkitty50 said...

Living in the United States makes some BW feel that way. If everywhere you look, you are constantly told in a subtle or not-so-subtle way that you aren't good enough, then you start to think it.Unfortunately, not all of us had a Father to tell us that we were beautiful, special, smart or worth of love. Still, we have to be strong and confident in ourselves if we want to attract who we want.

Angelina said...

FunkyStarKitty I have a dad and he never ever gave me a compliment about my looks. I never felt cute or pretty. Most of the guys generally only had one thing in mind so I ignored them. My favorite were the guys who would holler and call me pretty in one breath then when I wouldn't give them my phone number suddenly I was called ugly and every other derogatory term by them. My husband is the first man to ever call me beautiful and mean it. I gave him to beautiful daughters and we love the hell out of them.

So I love looking at this blog because it is nice to see so many beautiful women of colour represented here. You would never see the majority of the women posted here in any of the black male mags or on their blogs. They tend to only favor Black women with European features and a certain skin tone. Here every woman is beautiful and in every hue.

FunkyStarkitty50 said...

You would never see the majority of the women posted here in any of the black male mags or on their blogs. They tend to only favor Black women with European features and a certain skin tone. Here every woman is beautiful and in every hue. I agree 100% I've had comments from BM saying, "You are cute for a dark-skinned Black girl." Maybe they thought it was a compliment, but I'd just walk away. Unfortunately, much of the ignorance and hatred comes from our Black Community. This blog is important and thanks again for it!!!