I gotta answer this very interesting and deep comment I got from TBG.
"So, I stumbled upon it, and I was thinking...how do I like this whole idea? I've met and spoken with alot of white men who are enamored over black women. Its Soooo flattering. It is. What seems to disturb me about it, is that deep down within me, I feel like there is something wrong with being race specific if you dont know why you are.
When I ask white men why they like black women (the ones who do, anyway), i usually hear "Because they're beautiful". And when i ask what the essence of that beauty is, they tend to tell me thesame things along the lines of "they are outspoken"..."nice shape"..."sexually liberated"...blablabla.
Not to say those are your reasons,but thats what I usually hear.
And...it bothers me because that doesnt make a black woman.
As much as some folks like to think that black women are outspoken there are some who arent. There are some who dont have the hour-glass-big-backside-shape that so many people like to assume black women have. There are some, who dont fit that stereotype. And we see more and more of those these days. Which drives me to ask these people...
Could it be then, that you like a women that are sexually liberated, nicely shaped, and outspoken?
Could it be that the infatuation isnt with a black woman but what you think that they symbolize?
I just wonder.
Sorry to write up an epistle on your page.
Give my words a thought, will you? A response would be nice too. :)
These are really frankly speaking questions that I think are very important and interesting. My answer why "I like black women" is easy and still so very hard to answer. One thing, I can't deny even if some find it superficial, is that the black woman are the ultimate beauty, according to me. And I guess that is not a news. But still it is important - the attraction, the physical attraction. I know we all have our own personal attractions.
This might be a bit controversial - But to me the attraction for the black woman is nearly comparable to what for example a gay person feels for the same gender. Not that is is the same, at all, but this is the closest I could describe it right now. Even though I really can't describe it. And sometimes I think, "why do I have to have a real reason for what I like?" I mean, as long as I like something and if feels good inside of me, why do I need a better reason than feeling good?! :)
I agree with you to 100% - no one really fits into a sterotype. I don't like stereotypes and I beleive there are unique persons behind every single person out there - black or white.
So to me I do not like black women for that "they are sexual liberated, nicely shaped and outspoken" - cuase that is not the alone reality.
To explain deeper I can quote this (can't remember who said it):
"The Black Women have the ability to rise above severe adversity and triumph over challenge. Black women in the face of double jeopardy (being both black and female) have demonstrated a toughness to survive and a tenderness to inspire. I am in love with their elegance, perseverance and soulful style. They are all that!"
And after all, I do not tend to proclaim I have a complete answer to this, cuase it is really hard to describe. And I do not deny my blog and all this can have pieces of superficial substance. But this is my way to show the Black Woman some true love. My way to up-lift the Black Woman. In a media society like this we are living in, and with-out trying to be "political correct", I think it is very important to up-lift the Black Woman.
These are my thoughts for the moment! :)
Thanks for bringing this question up, very interesting!