Many reasons why.
Just got home from The Caribbean and Down South (The U.S.). And what did I get back home to - darkness, coldness, snow, cold rain, no leafs on threes, people that are so "inwards", no sunshine, no good vibe, just a empty feeling. And no, this is not a "holiday buzz". This is reality in northern part of Europe.
And I got back to a country with a very few black women. That sucks. Just skinny white chicks (LOL). I need a escape from here. For good. I feel deep deep inside - this aint the place from me. And I guess some of you will say: But Sweden is the no.1 country in questions of health care, education etc etc. I dont really care that much about that. To me, life is more than that. Aaaah, I can hear how stupid I sound now. But there are "backsides" of this life too. Trust me.
Anyhow, this one goes out to all of you who live far far from Sweden. I'm jealous of you guys. :)
I need the Good Vibe.
15 comments:
Here are some good vibes from New York City, courtesy of this proud Black woman!!! I have been to Sweden (my cousin married a Swedish woman) and it is a beautiful country, but it's clear that you need to be somewhere else. We could use admirers like you here in the US. Good luck, do what makes you happy.
Johannes, I can relate to what you're feeling. I live in the US, but I HATE the snow and cold, and the change in lifestyle that comes with it. Even though I live "down south", it now gets dark by 5 p.m. and I find my mood totally changes when it's dark before I even leave work! I understand that feeling that you were born in the wrong place and desire to be somewhere else. I was born in the Caribbean, and I always feel like I should either be there or someplace in Europe (one of the warmer countries, anyway!). I always feel like a fish out of water, no matter where in the US I live (and I've lived in 6 different cities in the US) - I just never have the sense of belonging or that people see life the way I see it. Yes, the US has lots of advantages, yet I think I could be happy living somewhere that is less prosperous and comfortable. But for right now, I just have to suck it up and deal with my current reality. But I'm keeping hope alive for change in the near future. All the best.
Have you considered moving? The south is the best and only place I want to live.Good food, good weather,good people.If you are ever in Alabama contact me.
kristen, I'd KILL myself if I lived in the South. Good people... who are openly racist? Um, no thanks.
I don't believe there is a perfect place but I recently fell in love and "perfect" for me means snuggled up in my sweetie's arms.
Anonymous- I understand,living here is not for everyone,but racism is everywhere. You cannot run from it. The South is beautiful...I love the slower pace it can have sometimes.I love the southern accents,the different souhtern foods, I love that next to GOD...Football is King, and last but not least I love my sweet tea and lemonade.*smile*
Sorry for the misspell,that should be 'southern'
Southerners can spell.
We also have sense of humor.ha ha
want it, want it, can't get it. Get it, get it, don't want it!
Don't be afraid to move. While you are traveling, if you find a place that fits you. . .GO FOR IT! What's holding you back? You get plenty of luv here & I know your folks aka fans (including myself) would help you with researching the best places to live, work, etc.
As a fellow Southerner, I concur with kristen! To Anon @ 6:37 AM, yes there are racists in the South, but like kirsten pointed out you have racist anywhere....it doesn't mean ALL Southerners are racist. There are pluses (sweet tea, limonade, Southern food, warm weather, etc) and minuses in the South, just like anywhere else.
YEAH! "Du är fin" is "You are nice" or "You are sweet"... :) Yeah of course I wanna learn them swedish... :) They gotta have some of my roots.. and they gonna speak a "weird" foreign language... how kool wouldnt that be?! :)
Forget the US Andreas, come here to Birmingham England, i know it as cold as can be but I'll keep you warm in my loving black arms. lol
London honey is the place to be. That way you can hop to Sweden in a jiffy when you miss home or take the train to Paris for a change. And of course there are many Black women here.
hey swedish dude! Hi Ilove this blog spot.I really like a swedish guy and I am afraid of what you write here.I really hope if we end up together,he will be willing to relocate to Africa.Africa is beautiful,the climate and the people! keep up the work,you got more love than hate form me!
cheers
Chep
Sometimes life throws us lemon, and we make lemonade. I am a proud African woman who believe that the colour of the skin of the man I end up with doesn't matter. It's sometimes deeper than that, it's the culture and values that the person brings to the table that matters. Especially if it doesn't clash with mine and my family as they are also part of me. I don't think you were not meant to be white or Swedish. You should accept yourself and realise that all the experience you have had outside was just a way to open your mind to new things. And you should stop obsessing on black woman cos if it is your desire to have one, it will happen. But you have to ask yourself apart from the fact that we are beautiful, and not "skinny", what else do you like about us? Sometimes the grass is not as greener on the other side as we had hoped. I have been living in the Uk for the past 7 years, and I enjoy both summers and winters cos I have known summers all my life and winters are a new experience. A way to challenge myself to adapt to new things. I'd love to visit snowy Sweden and go skiing cos it's out of the original, but ask yourself why many of you r Swedish people enjoy the cold winters and still go on with their lives. To get what you want, you have to know exactly what you want and accept yourself cos that is what you have to bring to the table. And believe me, no one is ever impressed when someone adores us more than ourselves, especially black women. It doesn't add to our moral value to be considered at face value; it is not a sign of respect! And if u don't like Sweden, u can move cos we all have the ability to change and adjust to follow our ambitions. You're not a tree. Black Ice!xxx
Trust me I was blown away when I realized you're from Sweden. I rubbed my eyes (my contacts get cloudy!) Sweden. Leaned in....Sweden. Shook my head, rubbed eyes again, took a sip...okay...three of Merlot and yep, still Sweden!
Oh envy me sunshine challenged one I'm in Florida! I'd love to visit Sweden but I'm the first to admit anything below 75 degrees and I've got ISSUES. Being of caribbean descent doesn't help me adjust much either. But like the poster Chi stated, We can definitely use more admirers like you in the U.S. Then again maybe being in Sweden is God's way of helping keep your sanity you just may die of visual overload somewhere else!
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