Hi all!
Just quickly wanna clear something about my previously topic here. It's been a lot comments there, which I do enjoy to read. :)
My standpoint about the last topic is that this was just a THOUGHT and not necessary what I think. This is a thought I wanted to drop after a conversation between me and my friend. I'm aware that it can be a bit controversy and stereotyped. And my point is not to say it is this way. Just wanted to drop off a topic I think some people out there might have.
I know, for fact, this is not all true. And I know everyone have there own individual preferences and thoughts. So, I am not looking at black women as a "group doing this and thinking that". It's just a question - to go forward! :)
Thanks for all the comments! Really interesting and necessary answers!
See you soon and til than - stay blessed!
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I have a question: Did you ever really love a black woman? You come across as a white man who is obsessed with black women. Obsession/addiction is not healthy. Maybe you're confusing obsession with love. You focus too much on black and white instead of the relationship man and woman has with each other.At the end of the day is important you find someone you're compatible with. In your previous posts you said many times you like your woman black and natural, but you never say what you looking for in a black woman.
Can you answer please. I've noticed every time you're asked about dating a black woman you dont answer. Why is that?
Hi there "Anonymous".
To answer your questions: Yes, I have really loved a woman. And she was black. To clear this out, when I love a woman I love her for the one she is. And her color has really nothing to with love.
One thing that is very important to know when reading this blog, is that this is a blog to uplift the beauty of the black woman. And I've said since I started it, in October 2008, that this might be a bit superficial - but this is my way to show some love to the black woman.
And last, but not least, there is a difference between love and preferences.
Hope I cleared your questions a little bit! :)
I understand what this Swedish guy is getting at with this, really. I mean, I'm a white guy who has a preference for dark-skinned women too, and it's just the way my brain seems to be wired. Dark bronze skin, dark eyes, fros, it's all so wonderful and yummy to me in any woman. Does that mean I am guaranteed to end up marrying a black woman? I'd say the odds are definitely in their favor compared to other women if only because I just check out ebony women more than I do other women, but the only woman that I'm going to commit a marriage to is the one that I am totally, madly in love with.
When and if I ever find that woman, it's really not going to matter what color she is either way, you know? But in the meantime, I'm definitely going to stick with what makes me smile and makes me feel warm on the inside-- the black beauties out there!
I also love the other thing he's saying, that it's about giving black women a public show of affection and appreciation as a white man. It's something the mainstream media just doesn't do enough, so we might as well start doing it ourselves I guess!
-Robin
Thanks for filling me in Robin! :)
I feel you!
Hi.I love yor blog and just wanted to say keep it up.Is it possible for to set up Facebook on your comment section because I don't like commenting as a "lurker"
Lol.
I think the controversy was the way the question was worded maybe that is what all the issues were maybe if you would have asked what do black women want in a man or what are black women attracted to probably would have had a better question,but I appreciate how you express your love and admiration for black women;as a black women it is nice,to hear positive opinions about us. keep the posts coming,there are alot of sistas who have s smile on their faces because of you . thanks
I'm definitely a lurker. I guess my ego likes to read this blog. Nice to hear so many NICE things said as there's so much negativity these days. Cheers!
==Dee
Interesting question... speaking from the from a woman's perspective and having experience in dating mainly white men, (for me) it's not the "white lifestyle". The important thing is whether we have similar interests. I don't like hip-hop, I grown up in Manchester (UK), went to a private all girls school, mixed with people from all walks of life, listened to techno music, went to rock gigs. I don't appreciate the ghetto lifestyle because it's not my life! Hence I gravitate to those who share my interests... black or white.
I know live in London and love the fact everyone goes out with anyone.
My only comment to you would be to be careful not to stereotype all black women as being soul/ghetto sistaz. There's definately a growing number of us who are UK born.. very well educated and expect the same from our partners. I don't see why being one colour has to predetermine you to be one way or another.
Anyway that's my two pence worth...
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